Oral herpes and sex

I have oral herpes but it is not active any more. Can I transfer it to my partner?

We do know that when you have symptoms, the virus is active. In such cases, the chances of transmission are very high. When you have no lesions and no symptoms, chances of transmission are very low. However, I should warn you that many people with herpes have no symptoms and can still transmit the infection to their partners. You can wear a plastic bag over your face and a condom; this is still not foolproof against transmission of the herpes virus. Best advice- tell your partner about the herpes and let him/her decide if they want to participate in sex with you. Abstain from sex when you have symptoms.

One night stand and STD

Recently I had a one-night stand at a party with an unknown female. Within 8 hours, I noticed that my penis was red and painful. Do I have an STD?

Most unlikely. STDs do not develop within 12 hours of sexual intercourse. If you used a condom, it may be an allergic reaction. I have no idea but I can assure that the chance of any type of STD is very rare in such a short time interval. Wait for a few days and see what happens. My feeling is that you are just a ted bit too paranoid.

Transmitting oral thrush during sex

Can oral thrush be transmitted to my partner during sex?

When you have active thrush with the whitish lesions in your mouth, it means you have an active infection. In healthy people, it is unlikely that you can transmit oral thrush by kissing or during sex. If you have oral thrush, you should first find out why you have this infection instead of worrying about sex. It is not common for healthy people to have oral thrush. Vaginal thrush is quite common in healthy females. Vaginal  thrush is not a sexually transmitted disorder and unlikely to be passed to the partner.

Vasectomy and libido

Can a vasectomy affect my sex drive?

No, very unlikely. Millions of men have had vasectomy and loss of sex drive is not a reported complication. If you have had a vasectomy and have loss of libido, the problem could be psychogenic. I suggest you see your doctor and ensure that your testosterone levels are normal. If they are normal, the next step is to see a sex therapist to determine what is causing the problem.  Sex therapists have been around for decades but many have now established practices- these professionals will listen to your BS (because you pay them hundreds of dollars) and offer more BS advice. I personally feel that sex therapists are nothing more than con-artists. Some appear on TV on a regular basis and offer crap advice which costs hundreds of dollars. Unless your doctor mucked around with your testes, vasectomy has not been linked to low sex drive.

No interest in Sex

I am a 27 year old male and have no interest in sex. Is this normal?

Sure, there are some men, a minority, who live a good quality of life and yet have no desire for sex. Completely normal. I would not give it a second thought if it did not bother you.  You do not need counseling, you do not need medications and you certainly do not need to speak to a sex therapist. Just continue on with your life. If you are content, then it is not a big deal. The same applies to women. The exact statistics about low libido is not known, because people do not go on bragging about low sex drive.

Pill for multiple orgasms

I am a 29 year old male and after having one good orgasm I am not able to achieve another erection. My GF wants me to go on for a few times as she is usually not satisfied. Is there a pill I can take?

Only on TV  do men have multiple orgasms in succession. In reality, most men have one good orgasm, ejaculate, are satisfied and want to go to sleep or watch TV. Women are different-they can have multiple orgasms in succession. As far as a pill is concerned to boost your orgasms, I would suggest Viagra or cialis. The other way of prolonging sex is not to ejaculate until your GF is completely satisfied. There is no easy answer to this, as men are not equipped for multiple orgasms after ejaculation-this only happens in porno movies.

Blood pressure medication and erection problem

I have high blood pressure and recently was started on a medication. Now I have observed that I am unable to have an erection and my wife appears very upset. Any suggestions?

Unfortunately, there are many blood pressure medications that will decrease the ability to have an erection. The specific drugs are the beta blockers. You may ask your doctor to change the class of drugs and see if that will help. In your case, even taking Viagra will not help. The beta blockers relax the blood vessels and this cannot be reversed with any erection pill. I would suggest asking your doctor for a water pill- they do not affect erections to a significant extent. In the meantime, I would suggest you buy a sex toy to pleasure your wife.